Ending A Marriage Is Never Easy
Ending a marriage is difficult. It is difficult for anyone and can be even more difficult depending on how long you have been married and if you have children. You get used to being with someone for a long time, you live with them, you have bought furniture together, you have had kids together, and now everything is about to change. That one person who has always been there for you is suddenly not there anymore and it is not an easy process to go through. If you need help with the legal aspects of the situation, try a divorce lawyer or divorce attorney. They know the ins and outs and will get you through it no matter what type of situation you are in.
If you are parents, you have a duty to tell your children that you are separating. Do not let one parent tell them; both parties involved should break the news. You may be fighting with your soon to be ex-spouse but your children have no say in the situation and they will most likely be very hurt so it is your job to be there for them and answer any questions they may have. Let them know that you will both be there for them just as much and will try hard not to let things change too much.
Try not to argue too much about who gets the kids what weekend or who gets them the most time, let the kids decide and do not force them to move around too much if they do not want to. You will want to see them and they will want to see you, but remember that they are just kids and will not want to move from house to house constantly.
If you are old enough to get married and have children, hopefully you are old enough to have a conversation and be mature about it. Sure, some couples separate because of communication issues, but try to get along enough to work things out. If you both want to end the marriage and you do not even want to save the relationship, have a conversation about who gets what in the legal agreement. The less you have to figure out with the legal experts, the less money you will have to spend on the legal fees and the less stress you will put yourself through.
When going through a separation, the best possible thing to do is to be there for your kids. Again, they have no say in the situation and if they did, they would probably tell you that they do not want this to happen. It is not fun moving house to house every weekend and having to choose between parents. It does not have to be terrible if you can control yourself and be pleasant to the people around you. It will be hard for you to go through, but adding an attitude will only make it worse. There are counseling services available if it becomes too difficult.